Since the beginning of the pickup artist community, many guys begin questioning whether the terminology and jargon we use is inherently uncool.

A lot of people think that the terms we use: PUA, Pickup Artist, and Lairs, are naturally creepy and actually serve to regress our lifestyle more than it helps.

Instead of integrating ourselves with positive aspects of our life, it segregates us into our own click of “PUAs” who are in the know, away from “naturals” “AFC s” and “Chodes”. Instead of going out at night and having a good time, we end up going “sarging” as if we are on some sort of undercover mission that nobody can know about in our attempts to seduce women.

Or, is that paragraph just a load of bullshit from somebody that takes it all too seriously themselves? Discuss.

It’s an interesting question as many guys are increasingly avoiding the stereotypical terms that the PUA community has often used. It may be a backlash against the whole subculture created mostly by guys meeting on the internet, often irrespective of one’s skill with women.

Thus, if we extend that line of thinking, should we even be calling ourselves lairs? Let’s take a look at what some of the other guys are doing on the lair list.

Most of us, of course, are still officially being called lairs. Usually combined with whatever geographical location we are in. However, as new lairs spring up and whatever was the “first” lair in an area no longer really equating to be the “official” lair, you can see a lot of groups are breaking out of that mindset.

Some are replacing it with the word “society”, such as the Toronto Phoenix Society or the West Lafayette Seduction Society. Others embrace the social aspects of their club, like the Kingston Social Network. Many guys are going old schook with the moniker player, ie, the Player’s Los Angeles Yahoo Group, or simply “Play” for short.

Sometimes it depends on the lair. If it is a more more fraternal organization the group might emphasize themselves as a “brotherhood” to separate themselves from a simple forum where guys meetup. Others show has they get active: “The NYC Sarge Team”, to select a group of ‘profesional sargers’.

Whatever the case, lairs are moving beyond the often boring “(location) + Lair” and really getting descriptive with their titles. It can often be a method of marketing in cities with multiple lairs. And with the earliest lairs passing on their leadership again and again, and the old leaders often getting out of the game, whichever lair was “earliest” probably means very little to the new guy just picking up his first copy of “The Game”.

Depending on how your lair is structured, or what your groups goals are as far as organizing, think about reflecting some of that in how you choose your title.